Do you ever feel like a square peg in a round hole?
Well this video is for you! It’s time to be the square peg in a square hole so everything fits in your life. I call this Living in your Niche.
I have 5 tips for you to Discover your True Niche in Life. Some of these 5 tips might be a big mindset shift for you so watch and listen carefully. You might want to make notes, and you might want to watch this video a few times over to truly take it in!
5 Tips to Discover Your Niche in Life
Do you ever feel like a square peg in a round hole? Well, you’re in the right place. In today’s video, you’re going to discuss how to find your niche in life so you’re no longer that square peg in a round hole but you’re a square peg in a square hole. Imagine that.
Hi guys! I’m Melissa and, yes, today you’re going to learn about how to discover your niche in life. Life purpose is one of my favorite topics to talk about because what could be more important than that? Finding what you’re really here to do is the key to having more joy, more fulfillment, more happiness, more abundance but there are a few steps that you need to know in order to find this niche in life so that’s what I want to share with you in today’s video.
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Today, I have five tips for you to discover your niche in life. Now, fair warning, some of these tips might go against the grain of what you’ve been taught. You might even find yourself zoning out and not really hearing what I’m saying. This could be a video that you want to watch two or three times, especially if these concepts are new to you, to really allow them to sink into your feelings.
Okay, so Tip Number One: Your purpose is not the same as your niche.
Say what? Okay, so we’re kind of giving you some definitions here but bear with me. It’s all going to make sense as we go along. So, your unique life purpose is really nothing to do with the material world. You are energy and you are spirit and as spirit, you connect with spirit. And your reason for being here on planet Earth is to learn and grow spiritually. This physical world is just temporary. It’s really not your true home so it’s really important to not be too attached to the things that you have here. Even relationships, even your cell phone.
Are you so attached to your cell phone all day long that you can’t live without it and even the food you eat, the drinks you drink, all that stuff is just a means to an end. And so your true purpose is to expand and grow spiritually. You might call it Personal Development School of Planet Earth. That’s really what it’s about. So, are you bringing that into your life? Or are you just living day-to-day and going through the motions? Hey, I know I’ve been there myself many times.
So, your purpose is also unique. You have a unique expression, spiritual, that you share just by being you. It’s how the energy kind of emanates from you and when people are drawn to you. That’s what they’re feeling – your unique expression. That has nothing to do with the fact that your job is to be a teacher or a doctor or an administrator or an IT person – whatever you do has got nothing to do with your true purpose.
So, many people are really looking for their niche in life because they’re trying to find “what’s going to bring me happiness?” “How can I feel more fulfilled?” But they’re looking for something out there to bring them that fulfillment. “Maybe if I change careers then I’ll be happy”. “Maybe if I work in a different environment with more positive people then I’ll feel that fulfillment and happiness that I just can’t seem to find.”
That fulfillment and happiness is a result of being in your niche but it’s not the same as your purpose. Your purpose is your unique expression, vibration, that you share. The things that you’re naturally good at that you can’t even help but you even take it for granted. That is your purpose, your spiritual purpose.
Okay, so if that blew you away, remember I warned you, you might have to watch this video a couple of times for it to really sink in.
Tip Number Two on Finding Your Niche is that your job or business is not your purpose and it is not your niche.
Okay? So, the roles that you play, the opportunities that you have in life, they’re amazing. They’re your opportunity to get involved and learn and grow, act and be and do and share with people and communicate and learn. That’s the purpose of them. There’s no perfect job out there that’s going to make you happy. There’s no right path that you’ll suddenly be like “Ahhhhh!” when you find it. It doesn’t exist so if you’re searching for that, you’re never really going to find it. You’re not going to find it out there anyway.
Here’s the truth. If you’ve been thinking that your life purpose is somehow you’re going to find the right business, the right service, the right job….the secret is that that job is just a means to an end. The same as any opportunities or any roles that you play – whether you’re a parent or a spouse, you’re a mother, whatever it may be, it’s just a means to an end. It doesn’t define you. Remember not being attached to planet Earth. It’s a means to an end.
Tip Number Three in Finding Your Niche in Life is that your spiritual purpose + your evocation = your niche.
So we’re finally getting to what a niche really is. Your niche is that beautiful combination of your unique expression of you, plus a job, an opportunity, a role that gives you the means to express it. So, let me give you an example because I’m kind of showing you the opposite of what this is, helps people understand it I find. Imagine that your unique expression is about creative communication.
Maybe you make YouTube videos like this and you’re being creative and you’re expressing and you’re sharing and you’re inspiring people. That is the way that you express is Creative Communication. Then you want to have an evocation, a job, a 9-5 job or business that allows you to creatively communicate. Imagine if a person with that spiritual vibration was doing a 9-5 job of being a mechanic. How many opportunities does that person have in that job to have creative communication? Not many.
Maybe that person was really pressured by their parents to be really intellectual and they became a doctor. Well, some of the time they get to creatively communicate. Maybe they really enjoy meeting the patients and talking with them but a lot of the time they have to follow a set procedure and that’s not very creative. So, that person feels unfulfilled. They feel like there’s something missing. They can’t quite put their finger on what it is because they’re doing what they’ve always been taught to do by somebody else and so that person is not in their niche in life.
But imagine if that person who has the spiritual expression of creative communication was working in media or was an inspirational speaker, traveling the world. Now that’s a good match for their spiritual vibration and so that person is like “yes!” They feel on top of the world. They’re motivated, they’re excited, they’re passionate and they’re naturally expanding spiritually because they feel like they’re doing what they came here to do. There’s a feeling of motivation and mission and purpose behind their actions.
That’s what happens when you find your niche in life and so it’s that match between your spiritual vibration and the job that allows you to express your spiritual vibration and it doesn’t have to be a paid job either. It can be other opportunities in life. The more that you’re doing that and you’re putting yourself in environments and situations and opportunities that are a match for your spiritual vibration, then the joy and fulfillment kind of takes care of itself. It’s always there and you’re naturally expanding and growing.
The fourth tip to Finding Your Niche in Life is that your growth and expression comes naturally when you’re in your niche.
You’re here to learn and grow and your niche leads you to more growth. I’ve got to be honest. When I started a business, that was a big growth opportunity and it was really scary and it continues to be a challenge and a growth and opportunity. But I love it. I wouldn’t exchange it for anything else. Anytime I consider doing something different, I just…it doesn’t fit for me. I’m grateful that I found it early on in life where my niche and purpose is.
That spiritual growth is going to naturally be there and you’ll be attracting more and more opportunities to learn and grow. If you’re not in your niche, it kind of feels like things just sort of stayed the same. Like you’re living Groundhog Day over and over again. Now, that’s an exaggeration but it can feel like that after a while. You need to realign and course-correct so that you’re getting that natural growth and expansion that comes from being in your niche.
Tip Number Five is that you’re always spiraling Upward when you’re living in your niche.
This is a term that I learned a few years ago that really resonated with me and hit home: That spiritual growth is not this mountain climb. It’s a spiral. I’ll go through stages where things feel more settled and secure and I’m kind of like yeah, I’m in my groove, I’m doing great, I’m implementing all my goals, I’m making progress. Then there can come a time where it feels like, oh, I think it’s time to pull back and retreat a little bit, where am I at? And then you go back and expand again.
So as long as that spiral is going upward and not staying in the same place where you’re Groundhog Daying again – you’re attracting the same kind of relationship over and over again just in a different outfit or the same challenges in a job. You’ve got five jobs in five years and it keeps attracting the same challenge you know?
You need to be spiralling upward.
Taking that next step and change a little bit at a time so you can continue learning and growing. If you don’t feel that you have that spiralling upward, again that’s a really good clue that you’re kind of a square peg in a round hole right now. Sign up for that Live Your Purpose Challenge and see how you can get back in your niche so you are feeling the fulfillment of living your purpose in life and remember nothing outside of you is here to be telling you what you should be doing, I’m sorry to say. It’s here and it’s with your guardian angels.
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