By Melissa Kitto

When I was 16 years old, I had an experience where I felt a baby soul come around me and communicate with me. She felt joyful and fun and I just knew deep down in my heart that she would be my child one day. It was only a matter of timing. At that time, of course, I was very young and had NO plan to have kids any time soon! My mother had her first child at 30, and I also planned to experience the world a bit before having children. I wanted to travel, find a career and of course, find the right partner.

Whilst I was living in London at the age of 24, I went to a psychic fair one day and received an angel card reading from someone I greatly respected. I distinctly remember her saying, “Wow, I’ve never said this to anyone before, but the angels are telling me you’re going to have a crystal child, a very special baby who has come to do spiritual work.” That was a confirmation that made it even more real to me that this baby soul was around me, connecting and waiting for the right time to be born.

Deep in my heart, I always knew that part of my life purpose was to have a child. But I was quite adamant that I wanted to wait until I was ready to commit to that responsibility. Finally, when I was nearly 32, I decided I was ready.

On my 32nd birthday, January 6, 2010, I treated myself to a phone psychic reading as a birthday present to myself. I shared with her my desire to have a child and she said, “I would be surprised if you weren’t pregnant by the summer.” In my mind I scoffed, why would it take that long?? That’s not what I was asking! Then she said, “It feels like a boy for you.” Again in my mind I scoffed, no, I’m having a girl!

The truth is I never imagined that I would have any trouble getting pregnant. In our younger years, adults spend so much time preaching to young women about how easy it can be to get pregnant. They say, “It only takes once,” etc. etc. This had been programmed into me so much that it never occurred to me that there would be any problem.

Two years later I was still not pregnant. I now have the utmost empathy for people suffering from infertility. It brings up such a range of emotions and challenges that most people simply don’t relate to.

I still felt my baby soul around me. I started to have visions. When Richard was considering buying a new car, he brought it home for me to look at and test drive. I sat in the driver’s seat of that car, and turned around to look at the back seat. I saw a vision of a baby in a car seat gurgling and approving of the car saying, “Yes Mummy, this is our car!”

One day when I came home, I saw a vision of a little 2-year-old skipping up the steps beside me. Spiritually, when things are in alignment, and I am receiving signs, visions and confirmations, it can be difficult to trust. The human side of me became frustrated. If I’m getting all these signs, why isn’t it happening?! Why isn’t my physical body cooperating with what I so want in my heart’s desire?

On my 34th birthday, January 6, 2012, I had a few friends come over to my house and we made vision boards. During that evening of making the boards, I recommitted to my goal of having a baby. I made it a top priority in my life. Before then, I had tended to make work and travel more of a priority. I made a commitment that day that I was willing to do whatever it took to bring this baby soul into the physical.

So instead of continuing to hope, wish and “wait for the right timing,” I took action. I went back to my OBGYN for tests, I did acupuncture and did visualization. I am keeping the details private, but eventually the reason for the infertility was discovered, and we made some choices with the doctor’s help. (Not IVF)

Then in August of 2012, I got the good news that I was pregnant! Here is what I learned from this journey:

1.  Timing is Everything, but so is ACTION

I wish I had a $1 for everyone that told me, “Oh it’s just a matter of time. It’ll happen when the time is right.” But the truth is, without getting the facts, and taking different actions, it wouldn’t have happened. Creating your heart’s desires is not just a matter of praying and meditating and waiting for it to happen. You need to take inspired actions, do the research, get the facts, make the right connections. Do something!

2.  Learn to be Flexible with the HOW

You CAN have everything you truly desire in life. But the WAY in which it comes and occurs may not always be what you expect. Learn to find the balance of giving up control of the HOW. Be open to what the universe is presenting to you as the means, you will receive what you desire. It may not be in the way you imagined it.

If you get stuck on wanting something to happen in a certain way, you will probably feel stuck and frustrated. You are creating resistance. Instead, learn to be open to what will really bring you joy in life, not wanting to control how it comes to pass.

3.  Trust the Signs!

I had so many visions, dreams and spiritual experiences that confirmed that my baby was on the way! But I found it hard to trust that it was really going to happen because I had been disappointed so many times. In hindsight, I could have taken those visions and dreams as a strong confirmation that my dream of having a child would become a reality and trust it more strongly. Instead of doubt, I could have felt a strong inner knowing that it WILL happen, I just might not know when or how yet.

This is important in other types of situations too. Perhaps you have always had a vision that you would live at the beach one day. But it seems out of reach and totally unrealistic. Instead of letting your doubt take over, trust in and have faith in your inner feelings, knowings, visions, dreams and intuition that you WILL live at the beach! The strength of your faith will pull you forward to having what you desire.

I truly believe the act of making becoming a mother my top priority for 2012 shifted everything. Instead of being busy and working all the time, I made time for more exercise, acupuncture appointments and doctor’s appointments. If I had a schedule conflict, I would often remind myself of what I had chosen as my top priority and do that first.

Many of you are saying you want something, but you haven’t really committed to it. You haven’t made it a top priority in your life. Make a DECISION (and that means a permanent decision) that what you desire most will be a top priority in your life. Then, when you are going about your daily life and making decisions of what to do with your time, your priorities will become clear. This is critical to really creating what you desire. Without prioritizing, you are still letting life and your old habits take over.

I look forward to continuing to share our journey, growth and inspiration with you in 2013! Thank you for your readership!